Book Review :: Desire and Deceit: The Real Cost of the New Sexual Tolerance

Title:  Desire and Deceit:  The Real Cost of the New Sexual Tolerance

Author: R. Albert Mohler Jr.

Published: 2008


Reviewer: Charlie

Comments: (The following two paragraphs are from the back of the book.)

“Lifetime monogamy is passé.  Pornography infiltrates nearly every home.  Homosexuality is accepted.  Lust has been redefinied.  The family as an institution is questioned.

We are reminded every day that assumptions about what is right and wrong, sexually, are different today than they were fifty – or even ten  – years ago.  Christian principles that formed the pattern for generations of American families are conspicuously absent.  What happened and why?  How do we respond to the dramatic shift in our culture’s perspective on sex?”

I originally bought this little book at the $5 bookstore because there are certain authors that I seek out and will buy anything they write; Dr. Mohler is one of those authors.  I greatly enjoyed the other two books I’ve read by my future Seminary President, Culture Shift and Atheism Remix.

The book starts out with a chapter that looks at J.R.R. Tolkein’s Christian and traditional view of sex, and the candid letters he wrote to his sons about the subject.  He takes the next two chapters to look at lust from the secular view and the Christian view.  He shows the disparity between the rationalizing of the secular mind (and the defanging of the term “lust” with its sinful connotations) and the explicit biblical definitions and condemnation of a sin against one’s own body.  Chapters five and six deal with the mainstreaming of, and easy access to, pornography and the damage that ensues.  The next four chapters deal in a straightforward, yet clear-headed way with homosexuality.  He focuses on the modern homosexual movement, especially its main movers and shakers and their culture shaping manifestos.  Chapter ten speaks to the tainting of male friendships by the mainstreaming of homosexual views; men no longer feeling as free to love and be affectionate out of fear of appearing homosexual.  The last  three chapters in the book deal with the topic of “polymorphous perversity.”  It is the secular idea that infants are completely free in their sexuality, unbound by civilization’s boundaries, restrictions and prejudices.  This idea has been a driving force behind a free sexuality movement to remove the “antiquated” restraints seemingly put on by society.

Although the book started slow with the necessary comparing and contrasting of lust within worldviews, it picked up steam quickly, and by the second half of the book the insights into the homosexual movement and its foremost founders became very interesting.  I love documentaries, and that section had that feel to it.  The chapters on polymorphous perversity gave me great insight into the driving dogmas of the movement and their goals to free sexuality from any restraints.  And of course it was appropriate that they identified the Judeo-Christian religion as their main enemy.

I would definitely recommend the book.  If you are in a position to minister to people with a variety of sexual backgrounds, this tool would serve as a great foundation of knowledge of the strategic modern homosexual strategies that have successfully moved our culture towards entrapping people in sexual sin and targeting the idea of objective morality in the realm of sexuality.


Tolkien writing to his son on being separate from the sexually liberal culture, “I imagine the fish out of water is the only fish to have an inkling of water.”

“Living with lust, is like living shackled to a lunatic.” Simon Blackburn

“…we are called to be nothing less than a corps of the mutually accountable amidst a world that lives as if it will never be called to account.” Al Mohler

“…the homosexual movement has organized itself as a liberation movement, based on an ideology of liberation from oppression that finds its roots in Marxist philosophies.” Al Mohler

Liberal NT professor Victor Paul Furnish, “To deny an entire class of human beings the right peaceable and without harming others to pursue the kind of sexuality that corresponds to their nature is a perversion of the gospel.”

Trying to make a homosexual / hierarchal connection, liberal writers Kathleen Corley and Karn Torjesen argue, “We need to grapple with the possibility that our conflicts over the appropriate use of human sexuality may rather be conflicts rooted in a need to legitimate a traditional social structure which assigns men and women specific and unequal positions.  Could it be that the continued affirmation of the primacy of heterosexual marriage is possibly also the affirmation of the necessity for the sexes to remain in hierarchically structured relationships?  Is the threat to marriage really a threat to hierarch?  Is that what makes same-sex relationships so threatening, so frightening?”

“The concept of sexual orientation was an intentional and quite successful attempt to redefine the debate over homosexuality from same-gender sexual acts to homosexual identity – that is, from what homosexuals do to who homosexuals are.” Al Mohler

“Evangelicals must reject the category [of homosexual orientation] as a therapeutic contruct employed for ideological and political ends.” Al Mohler

“We must deconstruct the deconstructionist, turn the hermeneutic of suspicion upon the revisionists, and bear undiluted witness to the gospel and the Christian worldview.” Al Mohler

“East of Eden, not one of us has come before God as sexually pure and whole, even if we have never committed an illicit sexual act.  Our ministry to homosexuals is not as the sinless ministering to sinners, but as fellow sinners who bear testimony to the reality of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ.” Al Mohler

On the ruining of appropriate love in friendship between males, Anthony Esolen says, “With every chanted slogan and every blaring sign, they crowd out the words of friendship, they appropriate the healthy gestures of love between man and man.  Confess – has it not left you uneasy even to read the words of that last sentence?”

“The emergence of lesbians as leaders of the major gay rights organizations was, Sullivan suggests, largely due to the fact that the gay male leaders were mostly dead [from AIDS].”  Al Mohler on why so many homosexual organizational leaders are now lesbians.

Structural Likes: There is plenty of blank space on pages for notes.  As usual for Mohler, the book is short and easy to read.  His witty style keeps the book from becoming boring.  The chapters are short.  He is very organized and informative.

Structural Dislikes:  All of Dr. Mohler’s books to tend to have the feel of his radio show.  He presents the information and then gives his take on it.  It’s not a bad thing necessarily, but just seems a little disjointed at times (in style, not content).

Acclamation: John Piper, C.J. Mahaney, Timothy George, David Dockery, James Merritt

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